Content and communication of hookup culture

Most colleges and universities have their own supporting groups to help freshmen to blend in college life. In Yale, there is a 90 minutes class talking about sexual education, communication and agreement. The challenge lies in that many students do not learn any knowledge concerning sexual health. When asked about what they have learned in high school, most of them would say “nothing”.

Such class is good for the young generations. However, the enroll class of us freshmen becomes complicated due to the tight schedule. One after another. Many such classes do not take it as a way to help student to have better and healthier experiences, because teachers do not want to explicitly encourage student to engage in sexual activities. The most knowledge student acquire regarding sexual health is from their own experience. That is why many student are taught that they must learn from their own mistakes with dating apps for free.

However, learning from mistakes with your partner is not so much of a healthy part and not all mistakes are all the same. There is a huge difference in terrible sexual activities. You or your partner try things you don’t like. Awful sexual activities would make you feel uncomfortable and regret, because it makes it hard for you to express your desire.

Sometimes, we would wake up and think “Oh, god, where am I?” Almost everyone had had sexual experiences. However, hardly did we hear any people talk about it. This is especially true for females. They can hardly get payback. Female orgasm is much rarer than male orgasm. Female orgasm is not what males would expect to happen for sure, not as male orgasm. More females would regret after a tinder hookup than males. Over 20% college female students admit that they experienced unnecessary hookup during college.

Such inequality originates from manliness and misogyny. Males would usually think of females as sexual bonus lack of communication and emotion. Such culture is called absence of manliness. Females are seen as either cutie goddess or slutty whore. Female are also seen as objects. They would be taught how to please male so that they would not be the victim of males for improper sexual behaviors.

Dealing with unhealthy hookup culture need to be elaborated in more detailed contents. However, we must firstly discuss it and admit it so that we can lead it to the right path. Respect your partner and break the stereotype. Always be alarmed for unacceptable behavior and try your best to intervene. The power of one person might be insignificant, but don’t ever underestimate your strength. The words travels fast, as well as the spirit. You are just a start of millions. There are so many other people like you who are also trying to do the same thing. You are not alone. Just do your part and help to build a healthy and positive hookup culture.